What is “the girl?” Rodger says the dreamwork is helping me to “be the girl.” The girl is the true me. Sometimes “the girl” is referred to as the “soul self.” But what does that really mean? What does it feel like to be the girl?
One way to understand it may be to first identify what is the not the girl (the pathology). It can get kind of tricky because the pathology disguises itself as the girl, trying to take over the girl. It can be hard to separate them at first. The girl feels her true feelings. The pathology covers them up with lies.
It is clear that the pathology does not want me to be the girl. It does everything it can to keep me from being the girl. This shows up in dreams but also in waking life.
What follows is a waking life illustration of what can go on between Kathy (my girl) and Pathy (my pathology). Pathy is very tricky. She acts as if she’s Kathy. Kathy and Pathy have been battling inside of me for years. Now I am starting to recognize who is who.
This is a battle between Kathy and Pathy. What Pathy has on her side is that she’s had decades to perfect her art. She knows how to “take Kathy out” quickly. But her techniques aren’t working as well anymore. Dreams are exposing Pathy. What Kathy has on her side is the truth of who she is.
Although I don’t think that Pathy will ever disappear completely, she is shrinking. And as she shrinks, Kathy can notice her and continue to be the girl.